Tems says music changed her life, and she is describing that shift in plain terms: less distance, more openness, and a new willingness to be vulnerable. In a recent interview with Doose Of Society, the Grammy-winning singer said her career pushed her to shed habits that kept her back, including hyper-independence. She made clear that the change came through becoming an artist, not overnight, but through growth that came with being seen by many people.
Tems on the habits she had to shed
Tems said that before becoming a professional musician, she had a habit of pushing people away. She linked that behavior to her independent nature and said music forced her to confront it. In her words, being an artist changed her life because it made her grow and pushed her to leave behind the patterns that were holding her back.
The singer said the biggest shift was learning that strength did not have to mean distance. Tems said she has now learned to embrace love, be open, and give love freely without feeling odd. The message was direct and personal, framed less as a career statement and more as a personal turning point.
How Tems described the turning point
Tems said, “Being an artist has changed my life. There are a lot of people who know me. It made me grow, I had to shed a lot of habits that were holding me back—one of those things was my hyper-independency and the thing I do where I push people away. ”
She added, “I have now learned to embrace love, just be open, and be free to give love and be vulnerable without feeling odd. ” The remarks place Tems’ creative life at the center of a wider personal transformation, one that she says made her more receptive to others.
From debut single to wider recognition
Tems launched her music career in 2018 with her debut single, Mr Rebel. Her breakthrough came later, with Wizkid’s 2020 hit Essence, which lifted her profile further. Since then, Tems has worked with Drake, Beyoncé, Justin Bieber, and J. Cole, and she has won two Grammys.
The singer also set a record as the first Nigerian artist to surpass 40 million monthly streams on Spotify. That milestone adds industry weight to a story that is otherwise deeply personal, showing how Tems has moved from early career steps to a larger global platform.
Why the remarks matter now
The interview offers a clear look at how Tems sees the cost and payoff of success. It suggests that the same career that brought her international recognition also required emotional change and a new relationship with love, trust, and vulnerability.
For Tems, the story is not only about music performance or fame. It is about how music changed her life, and how that change continues to shape the way she speaks about herself and the future.
